This will probably be my last post on this “relationship” topic for a while. In the fantastic conversation with Jennifer I learned a lot. On her blog site she has a post on this topic and in the comments at the end of the post she wrote these words…
Debbie Maken, in GETTING SERIOUS ABOUT GETTING MARRIED, discusses this issue at length, highlighting the fact that there is no gift of singleness, but rather one of celibacy. And they are not the same. And very few christians are given the gift of celibacy.
She points out that there are more singles today in the church than ever before, and, she claims, this is NOT because God has suddenly deviated from His “be fruitful and multiply” mandate.
Rather, she says, it is because our culture within the Church has come to see what God has for us as a totally separate entity than His “mission” for us. Men and women are grappling with the issue about whether or not it is God’s will for them to marry…
she claims that but for a very select few whose ministries would make marriage harder for them (like a Mother Theresa for example) the answer is clear and was given to us in Genesis. She humorously inserts that teaching Sunday school would NOT preclude one from the mandate to marriage! 🙂
Good words. Good logic.
For a while now God has been showing me more and more deeply that it is the lack of love that damages us and the restoration of love which restores us.
A lack of love can come from our family, significant people in our lives and/or friends – and of course, He is the source of all that is good, He is the God of love and we’ve been separated from Him. Restoration of love can come from same sex friendship, restoration with our family of origin and from having a loving marriage.
Yesterday I felt God really reveal to me how healing a loving marriage can be for damaged people. He seemed to be smiling on it.
Conversely, a marriage between unhealthy people could be devasating. It doesn’t have to be damaging though and we absolutely don’t have to wait until we’re perfect before we get jiggy wid it. Love is a very healing thing and this is why we are commanded to love one another and to pray for one another.
In the support that a loving partner provides, we can then go on to work on ourselves so that we recover fully and live life abudantly – as Jesus intended for us.