One anothering

This is one of the most important concepts (in the bible in my opinion). The phrase “one another” is used 153 times in the bible (NASB) with 103 of those being in the New Testament. The word love (a similar and related word IMHO) is used 151 times in the whole bible.

Jesus said it best:

By this shall all [men] know that you are My disciples, if you love one another [if you keep on showing love among yourselves]. – John 13:35

When unsaved people come into our church, do they sense the love that they have been missing all their lives? Do the believers in your church glow with something that unbelievers want? Who can resist a church where people have the characteristics shown here?

Serve one another

John 13:14 (NASB) “If I then, the Lord and the Teacher, washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another‘s feet.

Gal 5:13 (NASB) For you were called to freedom, brethren; only {do} not {turn} your freedom into an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.

Accept each other

Rom 15:7 (NASB) Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God.

Admonish (caution, warn)

Rom 15:14 (NASB) And concerning you, my brethren, I myself also am convinced that you yourselves are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge and able also to admonish one another.

1 Cor 12:25 (NASB) so that there may be no division in the body, but {that} the members may have the same care for one another.

Eph 4:25 (NASB) Therefore, laying aside falsehood, SPEAK TRUTH EACH ONE {of you} WITH HIS NEIGHBOR, for we are members of one another.

Col 3:16 (NASB) Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms {and} hymns {and} spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

Let someone else lead you

Eph 5:21 (NASB) and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.

Greet, be kind, be happy to see the other person!

Rom 16:16 (NASB) Greet one another with a holy kiss. All the churches of Christ greet you.

1 Cor 16:20 (NASB) All the brethren greet you. Greet one another with a holy kiss.

2 Cor 13:12 (NASB) Greet one another with a holy kiss.

Eph 4:32 (NASB) Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

1 Pet 5:14 (NASB) Greet one another with a kiss of love…

Support one another

1 Cor 11:33 (NASB) So then, my brethren, when you come together to eat, wait for one another.Gal 6:2 (NASB) Bear one another‘s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.

Eph 4:2 (NASB) with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love,

Eph 5:19 (NASB) speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord;

Phil 2:3 (NASB) Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;


1 Thess 5:13 (NASB) and that you esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Live in peace with one another.

Mark 9:50 (NASB) “Salt is good; but if the salt becomes unsalty, with what will you make it salty {again?} Have salt in yourselves, and be at peace with one another.”

Fellowship and loving one another is absolutely key to having a healthy church and a growing community. Without practical honest, heartfelt love we are just like the rest of the world.

Comfort, encourage and stimulate

1 Thess 5:15 (NASB) See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all people.

1 Thess 4:18 (NASB) Therefore comfort one another with these words.

1 Thess 5:11 (NASB) Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.

Heb 3:13 (NASB) But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is {still} called “Today,” so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.

Heb 10:24 (NASB) and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds,

Heb 10:25 (NASB) not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging {one another;} and all the more as you see the day drawing near.

Forgive each other, just as Jesus forgave you!

Col 3:13 (NASB) bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.

James 5:16 (NASB) Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.

1 Pet 1:22 (NASB) Since you have in obedience to the truth purified your souls for a sincere love of the brethren, fervently love one another from the heart,

1 Pet 4:8 (NASB) Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins.

Be hospitable… give and serve one another

1 Pet 4:9 (NASB) Be hospitable to one another without complaint.

1 Pet 4:10 (NASB) As each one has received a {special} gift, employ it in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.

Rom 14:19 (NASB) So then we pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.

Fellowship with one another is placed with walking with Jesus and having Him cleanse us.

1 John 1:7 (NASB) but if we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin.

But don’t…

1 Pet 5:5 (NASB) You younger men, likewise, be subject to {your} elders; and all of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, for GOD IS OPPOSED TO THE PROUD, BUT GIVES GRACE TO THE HUMBLE.

James 4:11 (NASB) Do not speak against one another, brethren. He who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks against the law and judges the law; but if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge {of it.}

James 5:9 (NASB) Do not complain, brethren, against one another, so that you yourselves may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing right at the door.

Don’t have lawsuits against other Christians… go talk to them!

1 Cor 6:7 (NASB) Actually, then, it is already a defeat for you, that you have lawsuits with one another. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be defrauded?

Don’t fight, you might end up losing it all

Gal 5:15 (NASB) But if you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another.

Don’t be boastful or have envy (you can ask God for what you need)

Gal 5:26 (NASB) Let us not become boastful, challenging one another, envying one another.

Don’t lie to one another

Col 3:9 (NASB) Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its {evil} practices,

Love one another!

You probably already guessed it, but the bible is pretty clear on the need to love one another. Loving one another is a command!

John 13:34 (NASB) “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.

John 15:12 (NASB) “This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.

John 15:17 (NASB) “This I command you, that you love one another.

1 John 3:23 (NASB) This is His commandment, that we believe in the name of His Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, just as He commanded us.

1 John 3:11 (NASB) For this is the message which you have heard from the beginning, that we should love one another;

1 Thess 4:9 (NASB) Now as to the love of the brethren, you have no need for {anyone} to write to you, for you yourselves are taught by God to love one another;

The world will know us BECAUSE we love each other

John 13:35 (NASB) “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Our love towards each other must grow and increase

1 Thess 3:12 (NASB) and may the Lord cause you to increase and abound in love for one another, and for all people, just as we also {do} for you;

2 Thess 1:3 (NASB) We ought always to give thanks to God for you, brethren, as is {only} fitting, because your faith is greatly enlarged, and the love of each one of you toward one another grows {ever} greater;

Love comes from God

1 John 4:7 (NASB) Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.

1 John 4:11 (NASB) Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.

If we love one another, then God is within us

1 John 4:12 (NASB) … if we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us.

2 John 1:5 (NASB) Now I ask you, lady, not as though {I were} writing to you a new commandment, but the one which we have had from the beginning, that we love one another.

Are you loving the people around you? That’s a challenging question isn’t it? Well, don’t worry, I won’t just leave you there. In this book we explore many reasons why we don’t love other people and what you can do to grow into a person who does genuinely feel love for other people, from your heart.

Keep praying for Him to renew your heart and mind! 🙂

16 responses to “One anothering

  1. Great post dude. When all is said and done, Its all about how we loved, not what we ‘achieved’. That lasts forever

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  7. Mark,

    The above comment from ‘brutally honest’ is also from me – I’ve been experimenting with wordpress a little and it’s causing a bit of confusion (for me, I mean).

    I do, in spite of my apparetn schizophrenic personality, mean every word of what I said above!!

    Be good.

  8. Mark,

    Great post – we did a series on this last year. It was brilliant. And I totally agree – these statements are absolutely critical to our reflecting what belonging to Jesus is all about, both to fellow believers and to those who don’t know him.

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  11. Mark,
    I will only say wow. Praise the Lord for inspiring you to write that, I find myself questioning my behaviour (isn’t it great when we get a chance do that? lol).
    Thanks for giving me that chance!
    Bless you,

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