While we must endure the work of growth, we can’t bear it alone. To be comforted and strengthened we need God and people with us. Jesus was dependant on God and people.
He taught us to be like Him and ask God for our daily bread (Matt 6:11).
Yet he also asked His closest friends to be present with Him in His dark hours (Matt 26:38).
We can’t bear life on our own, nor were we created to. Jesus did not model independance, but dependance.
This quote is from a superb book: How People Grow: What the Bible Reveals About Personal Growthby Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
I first wrote about this book in 2006. You can check out my post here: Book: How people grow