The Solution

Jesus said…

The scroll of the prophet Isaiah was handed to him. Unrolling it, he found the place where it is written:

“The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to release the oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.”

Then he rolled up the scroll, gave it back to the attendant and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fastened on him, and he began by saying to them, “Today this scripture is fulfilled in your hearing.” – Luke 4:17-21

… and it is true, He did make a way to healing. It would take hours and hours to explain all the healing I have received. Those hours can be better spent showing you how to get the healing for yourself.

This is a series of pages. Just read one per day. Pray the prayer on each page. When your life begins to change, don’t stop. Keep reading one per day. Keep praying the prayers.

Abide in Him and He will abide in you. It’s an every day thing.

Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. – John 15:4-5

Just read 1 page per day… and pray the prayer. It doesn’t matter if you don’t understand, do we really need to figure everything out before we will trust Him? Just go ahead and pray anyway.

May God bless you!

11 responses to “The Solution

  1. Hi Sam,
    I pray that God will heal your hurt and give you hope for the future.
    Even when God feels far off, He is nearby and loves you.
    Is there anything specific you would like prayer for?

  2. I’m sorry to add to this list of sorrows, but Mark, would you please pray for God to heal me, and help me? The shortening of my name is Sam (I don’t really feel comfortable using my full name). Thank you.

  3. Dearest Cheryl, Ben and Mark:

    I’m 42… reading thru your posts…ahhh! depression really doesn’t choose how old one is… i think i’m beginning to have bipolar tendencies already…

    I’ve been married for 21 years… My husband and I are poles apart with our differences. Came a point in my life that i had to decide between him or myself. I chose him, giving up a part of myself, losing my own identity… During those times, i filled myself spiritually, growing and just wanting to know God more…

    Last year, he did some terrible things that break my heart, devastated my person, killed my spirit… it’s almost 9 months now and i seemed not to get out of this pit of depression i’m in… the anger, resentment, humiliation, fear, insecurities, despair, hopelessness… you know that feeling that death is much, much more beautiful?…

    i’m now living my life on a day to day basis… just hoping i get through the day still alive… but, i’m burning out! i have to do something with my mind! My mind that my husband so distorted to believing things that are untrue! And you know, what’s so difficult? Heard that thing about “sleeping with the enemy”? And it’s not just sleeping, but seeing him, talking to him… if he does or says something that remind me of what he did, i snapped! As if hell has succumbed me…

    I’m a Filipina, too, Cheryl… and grew up Catholic. My husband is a “Christian.” But religion doesn’t matter… it’s our faith! And you know why we’re here reading this blog and posting these messages? Because, unconsciously God is in us. We have our faith that keeps us going… I so believe in my heart God didn’t leave me, no matter how i tell my mind He’s so unfair… I know i sinned by not blessing Him like Job did… but i know He forgives me… He knows our hearts! And this is something my husband or anyone else, your father perhaps could take away from you… This is some truth no one could ever twist!

    But i have to do something with my life…my daily existence. I could not go on living like this…miserable! Ben, your sharing about forgiveness… i have to get that through to the bottom of my being, i know… i did it once and it worked a while… my faith was challenged again when my husband continued to tear away my being… I have to get it working in me again…
    It’s so difficult though…while you, Cheryl could join your mother (oh! please don’t stay with your father. Don’t stay with negative people who’ll eat your faith away. They’re infectious!), i had to stick with my husband… I know he has acknowledge his mistake, and maybe ask God’s forgiveness ( i don’t know for sure, of course)… it’s maybe the fear, the insecurities that’s preventing me from moving on… everytime i’m being reminded of the reality that he did very bad things to hurt me… the lies, the deception…. it’s my mind versus my heart!

    I know healing takes a while… but the scar will always be there… right now, i just want to lay still, “wait on the Lord” to redeem me…i really don’t know… i just hope God so love me to spare me… i’m waiting for that something to just turn my life back… the peace of mind that i so worked hard for so many years, and just be taken away by the person i trust my life with… perhaps, i really have to work on that “forgiveness” thing all over again… and just “humble” myself before God in the truest sense of the word…

    Mark, do u have sharings on humility? it’s a step to forgiveness…

    Thank you all… talking indeed is therapeutic… May God bless us all!

  4. I forgot to mention, that with your dad like this you should most defintely live with your mum and avoid too much time with you dad if possible, because being around abusive people is like tip toeing around a mindfield, and you just can’t live at peace, not to mention the bad affect it has on us.

    With love,


  5. Hi Cheryl,

    man I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through, it sounds terrible and noone should have to go through it, I especialy know that God does not want his daughters to suffer like this. I’ve just been through some pretty bad pain myself, and I want to tell you there is hope!

    My situation was a little different but also similar. I had headaches which I would basically describe as a dull agony for two years and was at the end of my tether and got to the point where I just couldn’t go through it much longer. What happened with me was that at church one time a lady went up and prayed for another woman and told her that she would be very hard to deceive because she would be a real student of the bible. So I decided that I would read the bible regularly.

    “My son, attend to my words; incline your ear to my sayings.

    let them not depart from your eyes; keep them in the midst of your heart.

    For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh.” Proverbs 4:20-22

    Hearing your story, my heart goes out to you because I know the feeling of that sort of pain, and the kind of isolation you can feel at times because of it, and it really sounds like this is NOT your fault, you must believe it, this is NOT your fault,

    It sounds like your earthly father has really stuffed up, and also that you’re in the midst of the spiritual battle the bible warns us of in Ephesians 6:12:

    “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

    But also to go with this God has said:

    “You are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.” 1 John 4:4

    One thing I have learned from going through the process of searching for my healing is that in troubles with your parents (especially with abusive parents, like it is in your case) is that it is very important to forgive them, because otherwise it can put us through alot of pain. Jesus talked about this as well:

    “Therefore is the kingdom of heaven like a certain king, which would take account of his servants.

    And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought to him, which owed him ten thousand talents.

    But as he did not have enough to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made.

    The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay you all.

    Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and freed him, and forgave him the debt.

    But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pennys: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me what you owe me.

    And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and begged him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.

    And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt.

    So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done.

    Then his lord, after he had called him, said to him, O you wicked servant, I forgave you all that debt, because
    you asked of me

    Shouldn’t you also have had compassion on your fellowservant, even as I had pity on you?

    And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.

    So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if you from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses”

    I know this sounds quite condemning, which I know is NOT God’s heart towards you at all – “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus”, but it does show the danger of not forgiving, Jesus also said “forvgive and you will be forgiven”. Forgiveness is a choice not a feeling, so if you decide to forgive your Dad, which I strongly urge you to, remember its a decision, and it doesn’t matter if you still feel unforgiving towards him, you HAVE forgiven him.

    The other thing I read alot about in the books on healing was the importance of honouring your parents and how this bestows a blessing on those who do it – “Honour your father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;

    That it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.”

    but you also have to remember that what you dad is doing and saying is very wrong, I belive that God is very angry at him for what he is doing to you and your mother, but you MUST honour him and forgive him, and obey him when it is not a bad, or unreasonable request.

    Sorry for such a long post! remember that I love you as a sister in the Lord, and that all these people on here love you, and that you are prescious and the apple of Gods eye and that God SO loved YOU that he gave his only begotten Son, that if you belive in him you shall not perish but receive eternal life!

    May you know “The Father of Mercies, and the God of ALL comfort”

    Will be praying for you,


  6. Cheryl,

    My heart aches for you, Beloved. I was diagnosed with Bi-polar disorder in 2003 (I was 23 years old at the time) and the psychiatrist prescribed medication & counseling. I continued to the feel/think the same as you…God doesn’t love, I’m so unworthy, my past is too bad to be loved by God. I also struggled with memory loss, nightmares, social and major anxiety, negative thoughts and self-beliefs.

    This past summer (2007) I was introduced to Beth Moore’s book, “Praying God’s Word”. I began to pray God’s Word and His love began to penetrate my soul/spirit. I began to pray that the Lord would surround me with Godly women. He brought an extremely Godly woman into my life and through her friendship and mentorship I learned that no one “deserves” God’s love; however, He sent His Son (Jesus Christ) to live a sinless life, die and be raised back to life to reconnect us with the God Himself. It is only through the repentence of our sin (For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God, are are justified freely by his grace through the redeption that came by Christ Jesus. Romans 3:23).

    “Mighty to Save” (…it’s an amazing song that drops me to my knees every time I hear it. God is mighty to save…everyone needs compassion…cry out to Jesus…ask Him to help your unbelief…He is faithful!!!! He’s will completely transform your life (mind, body, soul and spirit). He made you….he’s knows you better than you know yourself.

    Sweet daughter of the King….He wants to save you from all the hurt and confusion that this world has brought upon your life. He’s waiting for you to reach out and accept the FREE gift of salvation. Where the Spirit of Lord is….there is FREEDOM!!!!

    Many Blessings in Christ,
    just a sinner saved by grace….

  7. Hi Cheryl,

    I have a 17 yr. old daughter going through something similar to you. I am not a doctor and I don’t claim to have all the answers. Realizing, believing, and accepting Jesus Christ and what He has done for you can and will make such a difference in your life. If you have never asked Jesus to be your saviour, you can not experience the life He has to offer. Open your heart to Him. Let Him carry your burdens for you. Let Him take away the unforgiveness towards others from you. Let Him give you joy. Read your bible, pray to Him often, and sing His praises.

  8. Hi Cheryl.

    Just to add to what has been said already is that God does love us. He says in his scriptures that he will never leave nor forsake us.

    God is such an awesome God. The reason i say that is this: 1. no matter your past. no matter your criminal record. God wants you just as you’re! Remember that he said he didn’t come to save the holy but he came to the qorld for the sinners. He paid a prise for you and me by his blood.
    2. He loves you TOO much that it just is perfect. He wants you no matter you’ve dissed him in the past to come back to him..all you need to do is to say Sorry and trustingly he will forgive you!

    Remember no one person is perfect..but you’re only perfected through God!

    May God’s love be with you.

  9. Also another thing i read in the internet is, when you have “Bipolar” your lose brain cells due to lack of sleep and depression problems. I basically have all of my brain cells lost because I always forget something at school. I used to be a honor roll student from elementary to middle school, but now that I’m in highschool, my grades are really bad that I don’t feel like myself anymore. I’m not a good person, not like how I used to be. But i was only a good person in everyone else’s eyes, but not in God because I didn’t recieve eternal life from him yet. And i feel like it’s too late for me now because I have a lot of health problems.

    Hi Cheryl. I don’t have the answers to your questions. I am sorry, I wish I could zap these problems away from you. I know what worked for me and in this blog I am trying my best to explain it and I hope it helps other people get free. I’m not a trained counsellor or a psychiatrist, but I do know one thing: that no matter how tough this world is on us, god does love us. No matter how tough your life is, God loves you. – Mark.

  10. Hey, im a 17 year old girl who has experienced a lot of emotional abuse from my alchoholic father. Everytime he is drunk, he would tell me things about myself that were not true and I used to believe in it. I know that God is the only one who can tell you who you area nd no one else. It’s just that everytime I visit my father, I feel like its hell. He play loud rock music and he would start yelling outside saying stupid things. I can never sleep. He tells me his problems. Like, “what if you were in my shoes and someone took everything from you?” and I wouldn’t know what to say because I never experienced it, since I was so young.

    My parents are now divorced but his hurtful comments towards my mom and I still hurt me.
    He would say very hurtful things to me, just because I wanted to dress a certain way. My mom would always defend me because she knows that I am just growing up as a teenager.

    My dad actually has a disorder called “Bipolar” and I also got the disorder from him, probably because I let his negative outlooks in life affect the way I think. I was diagnosed “Bipolar” when I was 15 because I was at a point where I have a lot of hatred toward myself since I listened to what he would say about me when he was drunk and I thought that no one loved me just because I dress a certain way or I act a certain way towards someone else.

    I am half filipino and white so my filipino side of the family are Catholic. The white side are Christian. So, I get confused of which religion to follow, but then again Catholism and Christianism are almost basically the same.

    I know the bible it says to always love yourself so that you can love others. I just let my dad affect me so much, and he always seems to want me on his side instead of my mom, when she is the one who is innocent. She didn’t know how to love my dad because he didn’t love himself. He would accuse her of taking money from him when he is the one spending it all on beer.

    I never did drink beer because I think it is an awful smell. I never smoked, but I did take medication for my disorder because a lot of doctor’s told me to. I want to believe in God but it is very hard for me now, because I ruined everything about myself and the devil took away all the gifts and talents God has given me. I believe in Heaven and Hell, the only way you can go to heaven is to accept yourself and include God and jesus Christ into your life and miracles can happen. I just have a lot of guilt because when I was 15 1/2 my mom would ask me if I believed in God, and my reply is “I don’t believe in anything.” I hurt a lot of people that I love and I feel like I betrayed God and myself because of that. I haven’t forgiven my sins or myself for the mistakes I’ve done, and everyday of my life it’s just getting harder forme.

    I really need some helpful advice. I don’t know if I need to see a doctor or psychiatrist because I have already met a lot of them and nothing seems to help. I feel like I made my parents pay for all the medication I took and I feel really bad inside. I don’t feel like a good person. Can anyone help me?

    Hi Cheryl. I don’t have the answers to your questions. I am sorry, I wish I could zap these problems away from you. I know what worked for me and in this blog I am trying my best to explain it and I hope it helps other people get free. I’m not a trained counsellor or a psychiatrist, but I do know one thing: that no matter how tough this world is on us, god does love us. No matter how tough your life is, God loves you. – Mark.


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